Stay or leave? What infidelity triggers in us

Infidelity turns everything upside down.

For the person who’s been betrayed, it often brings an emotional chaos that’s hard to put into words. You feel lost – like you’ve been thrown out of your own life.

What once felt safe is suddenly uncertain. Closeness becomes fragile, trust dissolves.

There’s anger. Disappointment.

And at the same time, a deep longing to be held.

You want closeness – but you pull away.

You want to be understood – but you can barely understand what’s happening yourself.

Infidelity doesn’t just break trust in the other person –it shakes your sense of self.Was I not enough? Did I miss something? What’s wrong with me – or with us?You start doubting yourself. The relationship. Everything that once felt certain.

This tension is hard to bear. You don’t know what’s right anymore. Stay? Leave?You want clarity – but nothing feels clear.

You wish something would come back – but don’t know if it ever really can.

What’s needed now?

Understanding. Space. And courage.

The courage to look – not only at what happened, but at what it stirred up.

The courage to name what you need.

And to ask questions that don’t come with quick answers:

What do I need? What does this relationship need? Is there still a “we” – and if so, under what conditions?